Today, I want to share a personal reflection that I had over the new year. It revolves around the challenging process of letting go of people who have chosen a different path than ours.
Perhaps you can relate to my experience: the beginning of the year has been tough as I had to permanently part ways with many friends, contractors, and even family members.
In particular, it was difficult for me to let go of several contractors I had trained, as this decision set back the launch of the ARCA Private Network by several months.
This situation led me to deeply reflect on what went wrong and what mistakes I made, as well as a way to learn and move forward.
My insights below:
Why We Are Here: An Evolution Experience
It seems that The Game of Life is the actual sum of all of our human experiences during our time here.
These experiences we go through allows us to make decisions, that permanently will impact the game outputs.
As decisions pile up, we are able to program and reprogram ourselves: We are able to mold the character and in that way, we mold the expected outcomes of every new experience that comes to us.
Consensus State: The Herd Mentality
It is said that 70% of the population lives in a consensus state.
The consensus state can be described as a herd mentality, where a large portion of the population forms opinions and beliefs based on external influences.
These individuals, often referred to as ‘NPCs’ (non-playable characters) rely on mainstream media, celebrities, medical experts, and the government to shape their perspectives.
Their unconscious need for security is deeply rooted in trusting the external world for validation and guidance. Consequently, they depend on external sources to form opinions on various topics.
Their experiences are designed by third parties, preventing them from being open to any information that may challenge their existing beliefs.
Transitioning to the Individuated State
Personally, I believe that my biggest failure has been having unrealistic expectations for people to recognize the dissonance in their worldviews.
Now I understand that moving from the consensus herd mentality to the individuated state is a profound and often traumatic process. It involves shifting from relying on external authorities to trusting one’s inner guidance system.
This transition requires individuals to let go of preconceived notions about themselves and the world. It’s a challenging and isolating journey, as discovering one’s true self often necessitates separating from the herd and embarking on a path of self-discovery.
This shift cannot be forced; it must come from within, from an inner calling that indicates a threshold the soul needs to cross to embark on this transformative path.
As the saying goes, “You can show the door, but each soul has to make the decision to go through it…”
The Struggle and Refusal of Individuation
Joseph Campbell extensively wrote about the “call to adventure,” which reaches every human being during their evolution journey. When one receives this call, they internally know that if they respond, they won’t be the same person on the other side of the awaiting adventure.
Looking at today’s world, we see many individuals repeatedly refusing the call of individuation due to the strength of their unconscious security needs within the consensus state.
I think that most people refers to this construct as “The Ego”: a fragile crystallization of beliefs that provide a “safe space.” Anything that challenges this world view will be met as a life-threating idea.
It’s crucial to understand that this refusal is a necessary stage in an individual’s soul development. You need to feel trapped in order to work towards being free.
However, the decision to embrace individuation must come from the individual themselves. Attempts to awaken others from this state have proven to be futile since the journey of consciousness evolution is deeply personal and can only be initiated from within.
While I believe that we should meet the refusal to embrace individuation with understanding and compassion, it is up to us to make the difficult decision to detach and redirect our energy from these failed relationships towards building new ones.
Focusing on Personal Evolution
“The life we experience is a reflection of our inner world.”
For those who have chosen to undergo the challenging process of individuation (several times in my case ), it is more important than ever to focus on our personal evolution.
Through discipline and a focus on what truly matters to us, we will attract the right people—This means saying ‘no’ more often than you might think.
Rather than forcefully trying to awaken others, it is more impactful to invest our energy into discovering our unique essence and gifts, and preparing our skills for the world that lies ahead.
We have been given enough time to embrace our role and take our place as the Pioneers of the New Civilization.
It won’t be easy, but that’s where the fun begins. Fortunately, we can count on people like you and me. We’re not alone.